Harry Potter and Ron Weasley
Ryan Atwood and Seth Cohen
Lucas and Nathan Scott
Sam and Dean Winchester
These are some of my favourite “brothers” in pop culture, which brings me to the question; should we consider brothers to be those to whom we are directly related by blood? Or is there something more powerful that can turn strangers into friends and friends into brothers?
Just to be clear, I’m not talking about the sibling dynamic (brothers and sisters) – Just Brothers – Two boys or men whose relationship is so strong that it surpasses all bonds of blood and can withstand any obstacle thrown at it!! The best of friends – two extensions of the same person (now people, calm down! I’m talking about strictly platonic relationships here), brothers by choice not by biology.
This sense of brotherhood among guys has always intrigued me. It somehow seems more raw and real than the bonds between us girls (I’m not judging – coz believe me I’ve got some of the best BFFs a girl could ask for!). They seem to be very direct with how they act around their brothers and everything is taken at face value in the exact sense it was meant to be taken. We girls tend to think that guys are not in touch with their emotions and find it difficult to express themselves – who knows - maybe they don’t talk about the same stuff as us girls and maybe they don’t overanalyze things like we do, but between brothers actions often speak louder than words. They stand by each other through thick and thin, and while they may not talk about a lot of stuff, they definitely do talk about the important things. In fact guys are probably more open to their bros than they even are to their wives and girlfriends; since they know that they will not be judged and what they say will be taken in the same context, coz GUYS JUST GET GUYS!!! I don’t profess to be an expert on the “bro – ness” of it all, but there must be something to it for even the “Bro Code” (no, not the one invented by Barney Stinson, but an actual one) to exist.
That is why it is heartbreaking when a brotherhood so strong suddenly disintegrates into nothingness. Guys who have had this extra strong bond for years, sometimes for most of their lives (even growing up together), guys who have stood up for each other through any hurdle in their way, guys who have been inseparable; Brothers at heart…… Is there really something so bad that they could do to one another to break that bond of brotherhood that has grown rock solid over the years? Is there really one act so heinous that it could damage even the strongest of bonds? Shouldn’t their trust in each other be able to withstand anything? Shouldn’t they be able to forgive each other regardless of what it was, considering how long they have been “Brothers”? Or does it really come down to the biology of it all…. Would biological brothers be able to forgive more easily than ‘bros’ simply because they’re related? Shouldn’t brotherhood built up over years of trust and understanding be able to withstand more than simple biology?
Maybe I’m rambling on at this point, but as a sister who has personally witnessed first hand the breaking of such brotherhood, it is very sad and difficult to understand; and it does make me want to figure out what went wrong. However, being a girl and not privy to their relationship it is unfathomable to me how people so close could be torn so far apart…….. Would them being biological brothers have made it easier to accept that one did something terribly wrong and that the other should be able to forgive him? I will probably never know……
Anyways here’s hoping that by some miracle somehow that things could go back to the way they were before, even though at times their closeness would lead to them ganging up on me and bugging the life out of me (figuratively of course!); it would be way better than this feeling now of not knowing what went wrong and how to fix it………
I guess figuring it all out sometimes does not only extend to yourself but also to those closest to you……. And right now I’m gonna go back to it….xoxo
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